I don't get the hatred for the refs. That was a nasty hit by Bernier and he deserved 5 minutes. Could they have called Stoll for a boarding call too? Sure, but they happened to miss it. It's impossible to make every call. And honestly, that wasn't THAT bad of a hit on Gionta. For a Stanley Cup game, I could argue that it probably didn't even deserve a penalty. It was ****ty timing that Bernier had such a terrible hit just moments later... but it is what it is.
Need I remind Devils fans the high stick to Stepan's face by Stephen Gionta, who you know ended up scoring the first goal of Game 5 against the Rangers seconds later as a direct result of the guy immediately defending him holding his head in his hands. And who knows what would have transpired, but that goal really really deflated the Rangers as the Devils went on to score 2 more quick goals moments later.
The bottom line is that refs miss calls. It doesn't excuse any play or penalty taken afterwards. Obviously nobody wants to be in a 5 minute penalty kill sitaution, but it's hardly a death knell. They were obviously at a disadvantage, but they still gave up 3 goals.