And it never changes.
I was at the gym this morning and the lockeroom attendant, who is about 72, is going "my wife wants to move the furniture around in the living room". I hear a room full of groans coming from all the other dudes as they shake their heads. Then he said "everything she wants me to do....is stupid." and you hear all the dudes going "oh yeah, got that right. etc."
Got a big kick out of that.
If sex didn't exist, we'd all be full blown fairies with our best buddies.
Yes I understand that and have seen it too. But borgo the problem seriously was my drinking and insane temper. I do feel I owe it to her to see what im like sober. Drinking in my case is never an option again. It,would literally be jumping off a bridge. She really got the worst of the worst with me and still tried,to make it work. Know what im saying
If you truly feel the reason for the break-up of your marriage was you and not her, that you would still be together but for your now-changed behavior, and that you still love you ex, .... I think you've answered your own question.
The world is def on the verge of a Zombiepocalypse
Well, not to his current gf its not!
To Ragu - unless you think the chances of it working out are slim (and it sounds like that's not the case), having a child involved makes it a no brainer.
In some instances, with two dysfunctional, fighting adults, a child may very well be better off with divorced parents. But, assuming everything you're giving us is the straight poop, its a layup to me.....You should do what you need to do to make the family whole (again assuming that will also make you happy).
Perhaps get a hidden video of the current gf while you still can???
I am currently in a similar situation as you, albeit on the opposite side of this. 1 year divorced from an amazing woman who developed an alcohol problem that disintegrated our marriage. We were together for 18 years. In that year, I have watched her turn her life around and become sober, driven , and mentally clear. She has reverted back to the person I loved mentally, physically, and spiritually.
I also have a really special girlfriend who provides things that she never did, but in the end it will never be the same. I am reconciling with my ex wife because she has proven to me by dramatically turning her life around that she is serious about beginning again. Like a phoenix from the ashes comes a new tier to the relationship.
Maybe you guys don't get back together, maybe you just become good friends. Either way it is healthy for you and your family to reconcile and grow from there.