This is a difficlt thing to discuss, but I feel obligated to let you guys know that my wife and I recently lost our baby. We were just about 5 months into the pregnancy and we went in for a ultrasound appointment last Monday. Unfortunately, our baby did not have a heartbeat. The doctors estimate that the baby died somewhere between weeks 18 and 19, based on it's size.
So, needless to say, we are pretty devastated. I haven't been in the mood to argue politics for about a week, and may not be for a little while. We have gone through the physical process of removing the remains from my wife's uterus, and thankfully everything went well with that surgery, etc.
Just do me a favor, if you are so inclined...keep us in your thoughts and prayers over the next couple of weeks. Thanks.
BTW, my name is George and my wife's name is Nicky (if it feels awkward to pray for some dude named "jets5ever.")
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I'd like to express my deepest condolences.
There is an old proverb regarding why G-d would take such a young life. The proverb speaks of a soul which had allmost attained the level of rightousness required to join G-d in the kingdom of heaven. Only one last sacrifice was required for the soul to obtain the ultimate level of rightousness. I know your child is sitting with G-d in heaven today.
[quote][i]Originally posted by Section109Row15[/i]@Sep 27 2004, 11:19 AM
The worst part of all this is that my wife will likely never get to enjoy another pregnancy...she'll be a complete stress-case the next time, and that is awful....
Take time to heal. I've heard many stories of women who have lost several children before bringing one to term. It amazes me how they are able to persevere and continue trying. [/b][/quote]
Yeah, I took last week off. Came in today - the wife is still at home.
It really is amazing how many things have to go correctly in order to give birth to a healthy baby. It's mind-boggling to think about....
I went through a similar thing with my wife a year before the birth of my daughter. We had a "blighted ovum". Its not the same time frame as your situation but none the less we felt horrible for a while. Things to keep in mind:
1) Reassure Nicky that she did nothing wrong. She will blame herself. God works in mysterious ways. She did all she could.
2) Don't blame yourself, you did nothing wrong.
3) You will make for a Great father and she will make a great mother. The deeper the love between parents, the greater the love bestowed on children.
4) Remember that sometimes comfort is best served with a side order of understanding.
5) Crying is ok.
6) If you believe in God, keep your faith. It will help you through the pain.
As a sidenote, a year later, we had a beautiful baby girl. She is the light of my life. Don't lose your faith...
Take care...and if you ever need to talk...let me know.